version of you
We all reach a point in our lives when we long for something different. You may hunger to feel more at peace, desire to respond differently to life’s challenges or simply want to understand yourself better.
In contrast, the experience of personal growth can be exhilarating and a source of great joy and satisfaction.
My work is about facilitating growth by building self-worth and resilience through awareness; not just awareness of what holds us back but awareness of our inherent potential to be at peace and comfortable in our own skin.
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LIFE CAN BE COMPLEX...
It is widely accepted that modern life weighs heavily on our wellbeing. If you are feeling burdened, it is not surprising, there are so many life-pressures to manage. I consider it my role to support you and share tried and tested strategies which will enable you to handle the difficulties and move you from coping and towards thriving.
You are not alone. Yearning for change is a very human thing, your inner voice speaks to you, longing for growth and the realisation of your potential. Deep inside, you know that life can be more complete, more satisfying, more connected, less burdened, less anxious and less stressed and feel better. Sometimes you just need assistance in realising that potential.
Welcome to my site. It’s a mixture of info about the kind of work I do, what I consider to be important principles for life and a bit about me. Because the work I do is important to each client, I wanted this site to have a serious tone but not too much; informality is part of how I work. Hopefully, it will convey an idea of who I am, what I believe and how we can work together. Thanks for visiting.
What I do
Humans are incredible, we have so much potential but we are often held back by the influences of past experiences and relationships, the pressures of modern life and the limiting beliefs we unknowingly hold. Despite being walking, talking treasure troves of resources, skills, creativity, talent, strengths, abilities, we can feel rubbish about life and ourselves.
I consider it my role to facilitate the awakening (or reawakening) of your resources through recognising how your past may have shaped you and facilitating new and better ways of being.
My eclectic background has taught me a lot about emotional and psychological wellbeing. We are complex creatures influenced not only by our thoughts and feelings but by our body, culture, relationships and the wider environment.
We are constantly changing and developing; our bodies, brains, and minds evolving and adapting to the situations we find ourselves in. Together we can steer those changes in a healthy direction.
I use my broad training in transactional analysis, psychotherapy, mindfulness, counselling, hypnotherapy and the lessons learned from being a father, husband and businessman (including many failures & flaws) and spiritual leader, along with my own battles with depression and low confidence, to promote and inspire growth.
Choosing a professional to work with, such as a therapist or coach, isn’t the easiest decision. I offer a free 15-minute chat (face-to-face, Skype or on the phone) to help make that process a little easier.
Face-to-face appointments and classes are available in Cambridge and Abbots Ripton, Huntingdon and online. I also offer training within organisations at all levels.
Learning in a class environment delivers a rich experience as attendees learn from each other. Classes are conducted with a nonjudgmental spirit and atmosphere of acceptance.
Events & Talks
With 15 years experience of co-owning a physiotherapy clinic, a background in the study of beliefs, and the heart, mind and body, I have developed a passion for inspiring others to care for their wellbeing.
My YouTube channel has guided meditations, tips for life and guidance from great teachers I have learned from. You can also listen to the podcast I host with my colleague, John Fleming: 3 People In Your Head.
We all hold the potential to have peace, joy, love, happiness, success, and fulfilment. I believe the path to these is hope and faith in ourselves. Sometimes it just takes another to believe in us to begin this journey.
Building self-worth, resilience & resourcefulness
You are OK, you have all you need within you – you always have had.
YEARS A THERAPIST
years an entrepreneur
YEARS A MINDFULNESS COACH
YEARS A HUSBAND AND FATHER
you’re not alone
So many of us are struggling, often in silence, with mental health concerns:
Nearly half (43.4%) of adults think that they have had a diagnosable mental health condition at some point in their life. In 2014, 19.7% of people in the UK aged 16 and older showed symptoms of anxiety or depression. About one-third of adults in England report having experienced at least one traumatic event in their lifetime.
2014 Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey (APMS)
If you are going through a difficult time and need to talk about it, please do not hesitate to contact me.
- adults who think they’ve had a mental health condition: 43%
- Over 16s showing symptoms of anxiety or depression – 19%
- adults having experienced at least one traumatic event – 31%
Zoom and FaceTime are platforms which allow us to connect virtually, talking face-to-face while being miles apart. For some of us, talking on the phone is good enough but if you prefer to be able to see a person’s face, this may be a good alternative.
If you don’t live in Cambridge or Huntingdon but you think I might be the person to assist you on your journey of growth and change, contact me and we can organise a virtual meeting. Because I’m able to conduct these meetings from my home, the fee for an online session is slightly less than a face-to-face appointment.
experience and empathy
Experience as a practitioner is important but I believe the best clinicians are the ones who genuinely care and really listen. I also believe that life experience influences the ability of a therapist in their work but this is not necessarily linked to age. Some of the younger therapists I have met are not only full of empathy but they have lived rich and textured lives too.
I have had the privilege of receiving a very broad education. I studied Microbiology at Manchester University. I learned loads about people, beliefs and values when I trained and practised as a minister of religion for eight years. I have built a thriving wellbeing clinic with my wife and I trained as a hypnotherapist in 2006 with the brilliant Rod Piggot. I have continually learned about the mind, studying many forms of therapy including mindfulness, CBT and counselling and I am now a student of Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy and honoured to be tutored by the exceptional Adrienne Lee.
Transactional Analysis podcast
As a therapist, I am passionate about sharing resources and strategies that can transform a person’s understanding of who they are and how they relate to others and the world. Transactional Analysis (TA) is a clear and comprehensive system that does just that and more.
I am excited to be sharing the privilege of launching a Transactional Analysis Podcast with my good friend and colleague John Fleming. The podcast is primarily to promote TA to the wider public as well as to be enjoyed by those well-versed in TA. We will be interviewing some very esteemed expert guests. We hope it will be a great source of knowledge, wisdom and inspiration.
The podcast launches later in 2019 but there will be intro recordings for you to listen to before that. We hope you enjoy!
“THE JOURNEY OF A THOUSAND MILES BEGINS WITH ONE STEP”
I love this Lao Tsu quote, it helps to keep things simple. If you’re uncertain of what to do next, send me a message and we can chat about your next step towards and the possibility of a new journey.